It's Okay To Have Regrets
You know a quote I really hate? "Live with no regrets." Not because it's cliche but because it's not realistic. At least to me. Maybe I'm crazy but that's a lot of pressure to put on to someone. And I'm pretty sure there's at least one thing we regret or wish we could change.
Another quote/phrase I'm not a fan of is: "Don't regret anything because it made who you are today." Yeah true. But that doesn't mean I can't want to change the past right? That doesn't mean that there are things in life I probably shouldn't have done or maybe should've thought twice about it.
Point is, we're human. It's okay to make mistakes. It's okay to make choices that seem to make sense and will be right for us. But it's also okay to be like "Damn, I shouldn't have done that," or "I wish I could've done this instead." It happens. It's life. We're never going to get it right but we can try, right?
I found myself for the past few weeks (or maybe months, not really counting) regretting a lot of the shit I did from ages 18-21/22. Why did I move to Charlotte? Why didn't I just suck it up and take the scholarship from CUNY York? Hell, why didn't I take my ass to Nassau Community college? Why did I get a degree in History? Why did I even bother at all? Is this Master's degree really going to be worth it? Why didn't I realize my true passion at 19 when I dropped out of college and didn't know what to do with my life? How in the world did I end up here?
If you haven't noticed, I'm full of questions and regrets. With what I know now, I surely wish I go back in time and tell the 18 year old me what NOT to do. But I can't. It happened. Yes, I regret it but it's time to move forward.
Though it's okay to have a regrets and think back on what you should've done, you also don't need to dwell in it. You can't change the past, unfortunately. There's no backspace. There's no rewind. There's no delete. Take what you've learned and apply that to your current life.
But there is one quote regarding regret that I do like:
"Don't regret anything you did because at the time it was exactly what you wanted."
With that being said, we are responsible for our own life, choices included. We may regret some shit later but that's okay. We're all learning and growing.
What happened yesterday doesn't necessarily have to affect tomorrow.
Peace & Light,