Create Your Own Relationship Goals
First things first, I want to express that creating your own relationship goals does not mean don't have a title. That no title, just feelings bit will get you into trouble and eventual heartbreak. Trust me on this one. But what I mean by creating your own is that folks need to stop admiring other's relationships so much that they want to emulate it in theirs. What it looks like a couple has is only the appearance of what we see. We have not the slightest clue on what goes on behind closed doors.
For example, I can't count the amount of times that people have said that they want a relationship like Jay Z and Beyonce. For what reason, I'm not really sure because they're really private people and we've just recently even seen them act like they're married. Don't get my tone wrong. I don't find it a problem that they're private and occasionally show their affection for each other. But people will take that little bit and make it a relationship goal when no one knows what they've been through, especially in the privacy of their home.
Another example is Wiz and Amber Rose. When they first got together, I think we can all agree it was so random and unexpected. But as time went on, I like grew to like them as a couple. To me, and this is based on what I saw via the media, they seemed to have complimented each other in a lot of ways. I really liked their relationship and expected them to go the long haul. But guess what? Amber Rose filed for divorce after one year of marriage and being with him for like what two years prior? Was I shocked? Yes because I loved what seemed to be their relationship. But the announcement of their divorce also reminded me that everything that glitters ain't gold.
Then there are the memes of course that supposedly describe the "perfect" relationship which everyone regrams and puts that stupid 100 emoji and hash tag relationship goals. Yes, it's okay to want certain things out of relationship. Yes, it's okay to admire other's relationships and want some of those aspects in yours. All that is fine. But you need to also define your own relationship goals. Ask yourself: what works for me? What do I want out of a relationship? What is it that I need? What is going to bring me love and happiness? You need to ask yourself these things because you may be admiring the wrong aspect of someone else's relationship. What works for them and seems nice may not exactly work for you.
Everything ain't what it seem. Do what's best for you and yours.
Peace & Light,