The Art of Self Care
Earlier this year, I went to what I consider a spiritual counselor. As I stated in a previous post, I was at a point in my life where for the first time ever, I was completely lost. I needed some unbiased guidance.
One of the first things she said to me was that I have a very caring nature and should probably go into medicine or the mental health field for she believed I would do well in that. What she didn't know was that I was looking into going into the mental health world via counseling. Guess I was subconsciously looking for confirmation. Well I got it.
Still on the topic of my caring nature, she highlighted the fact that I spend so much time caring for and worrying about other people that I don't even check on myself. It seemed to me that my very caring nature was both a gift and a curse. The amount of heart I put into caring for others, I need to put into myself.
She saw that I struggled with putting myself first because I'm a people pleaser, another aspect she picked up on. Once more, she was right. I put others before myself in order to avoid disappointment. But she reminded me that my spiritual health and just myself is just as important and I need to start taking care of myself if I'm going to be an effective life coach and counselor. I can't guide folks on how to solve their problems and live their lives if my life is questionable. I, too, need to be healed & taken care of.
She wrote a list of books I should read because I'm such a self help junkie and I love a good read. I put the list away and went on about my life, forgetting about the books. Six months later, I picked up a book regarding self care and instantly remembered my session with the counselor. What were the chances that the book I picked up was the same books she recommended months earlier? I looked at the list she gave me and there it was. Perhaps now was, well is, the time to start taking care of me and I'm urging the rest of you to do so too.
If we are ever going to be effective in this lifetime, we must learn to put ourselves first. I used to think this idea was selfish, hence why I put others before me. But as time went on, I started to realize how important self care is.
You have to take care of yourself. You have to be mindful of your physical, mental, and spiritual health. If not, you'll always be drained and eventually have a burnout or worse, breakdown. When you are in order and your needs are met, life starts to fall in divinely in place. It's okay to take a solo vacation, read a good book, go shopping, or whatever it is that helps you feel at ease. If others start to complain, explain to them that you are taking of yourself and perhaps suggest they do the same. Once you've been taken care of, you'll see a big difference.
It's okay to take time for your life. I mean, it is YOUR life.
Peace & Light,