Friends: Seasonal & Lifetime
A few nights ago, I had a dream about an old friend. Within this dream, I was confronting her about the downfall of our friendship and how I missed her and what we shared. It was one of those dreams that felt like it was real; like it was actually happening. But when I woke up from this emotionally charged dream, I realized it was just that: a dream.
This wasn't the first time I had a dream about the said friend or any other old close friends I had. Sometimes the dreams make me miss them and want to reach out. Other times, the dreams remind me why the friendships ended in the first place. However, it's usually the former and most times I have to remind myself that everything happens for a reason. I have to remind myself to stop living in the past.
It's commonly noted that some friendships are either seasonal or lifetime. But more often then not, we get confused on who's seasonal and who's not and ultimately left devastated when we lose someone who we thought was a lifetime friends. Despite my struggles with friendships (I have issues maintaining them), I do value friendships. So much, that 90% of the time I think every friend in my life is going to be a forever friend. Such a naive way of thinking, I know. But because I also know that aspect about myself, I'm very guarded when meeting people. I want forever friends but I know that's not real life.
We have to always remember the people that come into our lives are either a blessing or a lesson. Not every friend you make is going to be a lifelong friend. We have to learn the difference between seasonal and lifetime friendships and be okay when season ends. Everyone that comes into our lives is usually for a reason. That reason will reveal itself in time. No need to dwell or shade former friendships especially when at some point they mattered to you.
This is not to say that lifelong friendships don't exist. They do. You might end up lucky by meeting your lifetime bestie when you're a child. Sometimes you meet people at a crucial point in your life and develop something deep that lasts through eternity. I'm not sleeping on lifelong friendships. I'm just saying that chances are we'll experience more seasonal relationships and friendships and we must take what we learn from those on our journey.
If you do meet and find your lifelong friend, consider yourself blessed because a good friend is hard to find.
Peace & Light,