Forgiveness is For You
So for the past year, I've been on what I consider a spiritual journey. Back in 2013, I was all over the place. I had no idea what my actual plans were despite being a year away from my degree. My career path changed weekly. My job wasn't (and still doesn't but I got a promotion and a raise so there's that at least) paying me enough. Oh and I had the break up from hell that left me in a more depressed mental state than I already was. After the break up and being sad longer than I should have, I decided to take my life back hence the spiritual journey.
The best way for me to get started was through writing and reading self help books. I've read self help books before, well mainly The Secret collection, but at this point in my life it was crucial for me to find any self help book I could find. But it's one thing to read a shit load of self help books. It's another to actually follow through with their advice and what their saying.
After spending countless months reading self help books back to back to back, I've been doing much better. I haven't relapsed too much and when I do, I go lay down and meditate, intensively. I'm much happier than I've been in well... ever. I have a clear idea on what I want to do with my life. And furthermore, I'm finding peace. However, there was/is one little roadblock that I've been overlooking for the past few months: forgiveness.
I've never really understood the term forgiveness. Don't get get me started on the phrase "forgive and forget." How could you forget about the hurt someone caused you? Is that really possible? My idea of forgiveness is just not fucking with the person anymore and moving on with my life. I was only partially wrong.
After recently reading "You Can Heal Your Life" by Louise Hay, I learned that forgiveness is more than just chucking the dueces and going about your business. It's about healing. It's about moving forward. It's about letting go of the hurt and gaining your own happiness. Have you ever had a bad experience and ever since then, you're guarded, punish people for mistakes they didn't even do, or even keeping yourself at a distance? I have and I know many of you have. That's not forgiveness. You're still hurt and it is mandatory that you heal.
Holding on to that pain is not healthy. In order to receive complete and total happiness in your life you must let go. And not just "fuck you, I'm not dealing with you anymore" let go. Really let go.
Whoever hurt you, forgive them. Understand that they weren't who you wanted them to be and that is okay. Forgive them. Wish them well and be on your way. Let them go and set them and yourself free.
After reading "You Can Heal Your Life," I've decided to go on a forgiveness cleanse for one month. Though my life is way better than it was a year ago, there are some things and people that I need to let go of. I needed to remove the blockage so all God's blessings could flow to me easily and effortlessly. My forgiveness cleanse ends in just a few days and I have been feeling much better. I will blog about it and how you can do it in the next few weeks.
Remember, when you forgive something or someone, it's for YOU. You might think by forgiving, you're letting that person off the hook. You're not. You're letting yourself off the hook and no longer being a victim of your pain.
Peace & Light,